Because it is difficult to diet and lose weight
Following a diet is not complicated, as long as you just take notes from the internet, make a spending plan and write something down on your calendar. But the harsh reality is that people have a tremendous effort following a diet plan for as long as it takes to produce results.
Where is the mistake then? Is it possible that the human population is made up of individuals who are unable to keep their promises and the purposes they make?
The answer is a bit more complex and if you think about it it is inherent in the initial preposition: “ the time it takes to produce results “.
If you think about it, this assumption should only be valid when faced with one option: lose weight drastically in a relatively short time (months) to avoid the risks of a totally unregulated eating style.
Think of those who suffer from unresolved obesity problems and under medical advice are put on a diet to lose tens of kilos because maybe their values are so high that they arouse immediate apprehension.
In this case there is a tangible result to be achieved, such as the fact that certain values must fall within time.
But in most cases, the very idea of ” time to ” is somewhat misleading and I’ll tell you why. So in the end it will be clear to you why it is so difficult to maintain a dietary plan and why it is worthwhile first of all to do an inner work, to change yourself and your relationship with food, before even relying on diets impossible to observe.
First of all, the concept of necessary time is the result of a commercial – hedonistic vision of life, based on the concept of appearance .
Of course, there are canons of beauty that can not be underestimated and being thin online helps a lot in social relationships and goodbye, if you want to feel more beautiful and attractive it is not a shame, indeed! There is! It is in the dynamics of human relations.
But if we shift the focus to the “health” factor, it seems obvious that the ” swimsuit ” is a fairly ineffective way to induce a person to stay fit. shape for life.
Because this is the key point : you don’t have to lose weight and feel good to be able to go to the beach next summer (and therefore in fact endorsing an unregulated eating style in cold seasons) or because you want lose weight and not have a plan to keep fit.
You must adopt a dietary lifestyle that you can keep for life , adapting it if anything to the demands of your body, which at 50 is not the same as at 30 (and widening the spectrum of your personal investigation / discovery , which you think you can conclude with diet, in the field of physical training and food supplementation ).
The difficulties presented by a tight diet plan are obvious and are the main reason why:
- There are many diets out there (if there was one that works for life, there would be no “market” for diets).
- The data on obesity, especially childhood obesity, are worrying , the result of real misinformation on the scientific validity of nutrition.
People will be always encouraged and not give much importance to nutrition, especially from the point of view of preventing serious diseases, if in front of them they have this mirage of being able to lose weight and be beautiful in a few weeks.
You will realize that, put in these terms, the whole story follows the contours of a sacrifice, which to be such must be rare and precious and dedicated to very different expectations .
Then of course there are some purely psychological aspects, which are perhaps the most relevant.
Apart from the problems of genetic nature or the presence of clinical triggers, you gain weight because essentially more calories than necessary are introduced into the body and coming from poor quality foods (which raise glycemic peaks, contain trans fats, of a purely animal or industrial nature).
Because your body and mind are rebelling
But the most subtle thing is that you gain weight because:
- The scientific basis of nutrition is not known, not even broadly (i.e. when, how, what and why to eat or not eat certain foods and what effects they have on metabolism and health organs);
- The outburst on food is a palliative . It comforts and makes you feel good because it activates the pleasure centers, but in reality the problem of the relationship with food is a problem of the relationship with oneself. Who you really are and why you behave the way you do. Linked to expectations, to the ability to draw satisfaction within oneself from other activities unrelated to the taste buds and the pleasure centers connected to them;
- It is not clear that the most important resource is not money, but time and you think you have a lot of it at your disposal, which is why you postpone bad eating habits in the same way you on the other hand, he postpones the start of the diet.
The other psychological factors to be taken into account have the subject of social studies for decades, let’s say at least a century, and only in the last few decades have they been associated with nutrition and diets in a specific way.
These are factors with which you are familiar, but which for one reason or another never connect to the way you feed and inform yourself and decide to stick to the diet plan most popular at the moment.
- Behaviors come from habits . If the diet you intend to follow involves either too many sacrifices or too many expenses or an incorrect management of your time, which affects your relationships, sooner or later it is rejected, because if it can become a habit to eat broccoli as a side dish, skipping dinner or giving up carbohydrates forever is different. These are frankly nonsense and against which your body, above all, rebels. Because he needs energy. And because you can’t taint it with a meal plan that not even in the barracks.
- Impatience is never a good counselor . You are impetuous because you want to obtain results immediately, visible (which therefore do not even take into account the reality of the values, measurements and analyzes), but you will not get any results because the frustration caused by the lack of immediate results will make you go backwards, making you wonder if you are making the right choice. The risk is to fall back into old vices.
- Weight loss can become obsessive , to the point of triggering real eating disorders. But in the best of cases, the object of the diet does not become feeling good, feeling more at ease with yourself, regaining happiness in relationships … no, it is the diet itself that becomes the object of your thoughts, so in the end you are led to sacrifice everything by losing sight of the ultimate goal, which is not to follow a diet, but to feel good to like yourself more, to regain self-respect.
- As a result of this, even the mirror becomes an insidious and unfaithful friend , a companion on the daily journey that feeds other, dangerous obsessions. This is because obviously the times and ways in which you lose weight are not as linear as you expect. At first you may lose more fluids than fat, then it becomes much more complicated, especially if you don’t accompany your diet with training or are not followed and advised by experts.
- Goals that are too large do not fit in short windows of time . For this reason I say that “the time it takes to” means everything and nothing and is not an applicable metric. You need to eat right from now on. Not from now until next month. Then, let’s face it, no one is damned to the soul for 2-3 kilos of overweight that can be lost by maintaining the same food plan and adding a brisk walk. People who are most interested in losing weight are called to make more sacrifices. You have to build from the ground up and get to the top floor. There are no shortcuts and half measures.
- Any enforcement of norms tends to be broken if it goes against the usual behavior. It works just like the laws. They are really valid if the recipients observe them, otherwise they remain an empty sentence that with little constructive spirit or a penalty plan, end up producing counterproductive behavior. The most striking effect is the so-called “binge”. It is absolutely not uncommon for dieters, after beating around the bush so much about how and when to start, end up indulging in real binges of thousands of calories.
- The diet not only introduces a regimen that is difficult to maintain, because it almost always conflicts with your beliefs and beliefs, but tends to exclude, to disconnect social connections, to introduce friction elements that are difficult to keep upright. In the end, rightly so, we give up.
Before counting calories, do some inner work
If you notice, in these 7 points I have practically never talked about what you should eat, calories, times, macronutrients. If you read my blog, follow me on social channels, or have purchased my products (individual courses in the past or Soul Camp ™ ), you already know what kind of information you need to eat well.
The problem is your relationship with food.
That you have to adjust by adopting the style of an ideal, moderate day that affects everything you do and who you are.
You must desecrate food because after all you are seeing it as an enemy and you should not see your primary energy source as an enemy, because it is the one that allows you to stay active, do many things, live an intense life.
And food also has a convivial value.
I don’t have to stress the importance of bread in human civilization, transforming it from nomadic to permanent … or the role it plays in religions or in social relationships.
Just think of the naturalness with which lunches and dinners take place with relatives, friends, people we love, it certainly cannot be a coincidence that food is the witness of the best moments of our life.
I mean, in the end, maybe those who say we are what we eat are right. And it’s true.
But we are also what we decide.
Our actions are the way to a better life, in which you have a healthy relationship with all the elements.
If your existence is literally seasoned with the same ingredients, you will always get the same reactions, negative or positive depending on the case.
The relationship with food defines your ability to make correct decisions. And you can improve this ability by reviewing the frame within which you are painting the picture of your life.
Learn to find your balance, in the kitchen as in life. The inner work connected to the decisions you make, even from a food point of view, can take you very far. Eliminates hidden addictions, brings well-being, energy, will to live and to face difficulties and problems with a constructive spirit.
It is the goal I set myself to make you reach with Soul Camp ™, my path of growth and development, which can help you live a more harmonious and intense